Every child is born with a personality style that begins to emerge and present itself very early on. With 4 areas of preference, we may be similar to or different from our children in each of these areas. Where you find friction is usually where you find the differences. Understanding ways your child best operates in the world will help you nurture your children in their style rather than your own.
As parents, motivating our children in their style will be far more successful then trying what motivates us. A little style-flexing goes a long way in raising our children.