645: 73.06 Jennifer Wetzler - Down side of too much empathy and collaboration

NUGGET CONTEXT

Jen speaks about the occasional downsides of some traits like empathy and collaboration. As they say, too much of a good thing might be a bad thing. She speaks about situations where it is helpful for us to maintain a healthy distance from what is going on rather than getting deep into it. She also speaks about situations where collaboration might be counter-productive.

GUEST

Dr. Jennifer (Jen) Goldman Wetzler is a leading expert on Conflict and Organizational psychology. For two decades, she has advised senior leaders at global corporations in a wide range of industries as well as at large non-profit and governmental institutions. She is the author of Optimal Outcomes - Free yourself from conflict at Work, at Home and in life. Earlier in her career, she was Director of Negotiation Programs at Mediation Works Incorporated, and a facilitator at the Program on Negotiation at Harvard Law School. A former counterterrorism research fellow with the U.S. Department of Homeland Security, she received her B.A. with honors from Tufts University and holds a Ph.D. in Social-Organizational Psychology from Columbia University.

When I reflect on my journey, I feel I often default to a conflict-avoiding approach which I find to be frequently counter-productive in situations. Jen speaks about the various defaults each one of us gravitate towards and how that leads us to being stuck in conflict. How we engage in conflict is such a critical skill that shapes the quality of our experiences and outcomes at home and at work. Something that is so essential but never gets discussed in a productive way.

Published in May 2021.

HOST

Deepak is a Leadership Advisor and an Executive Coach. He works with leaders to improve their effectiveness and in helping them make better decisions specifically around organizational and career transitions. He currently runs Transition Insight (www.transitioninsight.com) and works with leaders to handle phases of transition thoughtfully. He has worked as an Operations Consultant with KPMG in UK, Strategy Consultant with McKinsey in the US and as a Leadership Consultant with EgonZehnder (a Swiss Leadership Advisory firm) where he helped companies recruit CEOs, CXOs and Board Members and worked on Leadership Development. Deepak is a certified CEO Coach and is an alumnus of IIT Madras, IIM Ahmedabad and London Business School. His detailed profile can be found at https://in.linkedin.com/in/djayaraman

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